GodStrong Women

πŸ’ Marriage Without Baggage

Many of us get married with baggage. We bring negative elements from our past into the relationship. The baggage Karen and I brought into our marriage led us to the brink of divorce, until we dealt with it. Baggage can ruin a marriage. The three biggest types of baggage are iniquities, inner vows, and unforgiveness. Iniquities: Like a tree that grows crooked because of powerful prevailing winds, an iniquity is a generational bent toward sinful or negative…

πŸ’ Turn Your Doubts Into Overcoming Faith

In Chennai, India, there’s a large Roman Catholic cathedral called San Thome Basilica. It’s named for Thomas, the doubting disciple. The church is built on the place where Thomas is buriedβ€”one of only three churches in the world thought to have been built over the tombs of Jesus’s disciples. Why is this significant? Because Thomas started as the “doubting disciple.” But he did not remain a doubter. When Jesus appeared to him after the Resurrection, Thomas believed.…

πŸ’ The Three Challenges of Change

Our thinking determines how we relate to everyone in our lives. It impacts how we view our marriage. It impacts how we view ourselves. It even impacts our relationship with God. In order to improve all of those relationships, we have to take our fallen thinking and conform it to biblical thinking. In other words, we have to change our minds. There are three reasons this can be a huge challenge. 1⃣ First, the Word of God…

πŸ’πŸ‘‘ Help Meet

β€œAnd the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him…. And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof; And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. And Adam said,…

πŸ’ Breaking The Curse of Control

A marriage in which one spouse controls the other spouse is not a healthy marriage. It doesn’t matter if the dominant spouse is a man or a woman. Control is a gender-neutral issue. But in my marriage, I was the controlling spouse. Karen and I nearly divorced because I was such a dominating husband. That sin goes all the way back to the Garden of Eden. God designed marriage to be a paradise as long as it…

πŸ’ Celebrate Your Differences

When Karen and I started dating, I thought we were just going out and having fun. It was superficial at first. But God was doing something at a much deeper level than I understood. I believe God wires us to choose a spouse according to His will. This happens under the surface and we don’t always recognize it. It’s part of His plan, but not understanding this causes a lot of the pain people experience in marriage.…

πŸ’ Keep Watch Over Your Words

Communication is the lifeblood of a healthy marriage. It’s how two individuals transfer their thoughts, feelings, and dreams to each other as they become one flesh. Without communication, marriage becomes nothing more than a living arrangement. Consider how many verses in Scripture address the power of good communication: “I have resolved that my mouth will not sin.” (Psalm 17:3) “Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.” (Proverbs 12:18) “He who…

πŸ’ The Power Of Positive Communication

Relationships begin with communication. Talking to each otherβ€”on a date, in the car, while spending time togetherβ€”is how a couple falls in love. Communication is how two people begin to understand each others’ heart. The early days of a romance are filled with talking. But in some marriages, that commitment to communication begins to fade over time. As couples get comfortable with each other, they stop talking. That’s dangerous, because communication is vital in a healthy relationship…

πŸ’ How To Share And To Trust Your Spouse

The image of Adam and Eve hiding themselves with fig leaves is one that artists have been fascinated with for centuries. It’s a little comicalβ€”a couple lives together in Paradise, totally naked, then suddenly become ashamed of their bodies. But there’s a serious lesson for marriage to be found in this story. When God created Adam and Eve, according to Genesis 2:24-25, the man and his wife were both “naked and unashamed.” This represents one of God’s…

πŸ’ How To Fall In Love Again

Many of the married couples I speak to are in need of good news. They love each other but may be discouraged. They are frustrated and fearful. Some have failed in past marriages. Others feel like they are failing now. They don’t know what to do. I always tell them that God created marriage, and when He creates anything, He creates it for success. He designs it according to the laws of His kingdom and His Word.…