GodStrong Women

πŸ’ How To Keep Your Marriage Flying High

Last time we talked about the danger of putting your marriage on autopilot. When you disengage from the controls and begin to relax, you lose sight of each other. You stop putting in the hard work. You begin to coast. A plane can’t coast forever. It either runs out of gas or experiences a situation that disengages the autopilot. When that happens, you have to be able to fly on your own. But some marriages have been…

πŸ’ When Your Marriage Is On Autopilot

One thing a lot of people don’t know about me is that I’m a pilot. I only fly a single-engine plane, but my hobby puts me in contact with all kinds of pilots. One of my friends runs a charter service and he was telling me about a time he hired a commercial pilot to fly for him. The commercial pilot had 30 years of experience behind him. He had something like 15,000 hours in the cockpit…

πŸ’ How To Date And Successfully Marry

I speak to married couples on a regular basis, but some of the most important decisions in a relationship happen before the wedding. The choices a couple makes while dating build a foundation for the rest of their lives together. Dating the right way is crucial. So when I speak to young single adults, here are a few of the things I tell them about dating: Date by faith and not by fear. When we make decisions…

πŸ’ The Habits Of Emotionally Healthy Couples

Habits, disciplines, and traditions are everything in a marriage. The regular patterns and behaviors of your relationshipβ€”the actions you take on a daily basisβ€”will predict your future success. Good habits don’t happen by accident. Research has shown that it takes around 60 days for a new behavior to rewire your brain, turning it into a new habit. It starts out unfamiliar and new. Two months later, it can become your default setting. Marriages don’t succeed because of…

πŸ’ Marriage Without Baggage

Many of us get married with baggage. We bring negative elements from our past into the relationship. The baggage Karen and I brought into our marriage led us to the brink of divorce, until we dealt with it. Baggage can ruin a marriage. The three biggest types of baggage are iniquities, inner vows, and unforgiveness. Iniquities: Like a tree that grows crooked because of powerful prevailing winds, an iniquity is a generational bent toward sinful or negative…

πŸ’ Turn Your Doubts Into Overcoming Faith

In Chennai, India, there’s a large Roman Catholic cathedral called San Thome Basilica. It’s named for Thomas, the doubting disciple. The church is built on the place where Thomas is buriedβ€”one of only three churches in the world thought to have been built over the tombs of Jesus’s disciples. Why is this significant? Because Thomas started as the “doubting disciple.” But he did not remain a doubter. When Jesus appeared to him after the Resurrection, Thomas believed.…

πŸ’ The Three Challenges of Change

Our thinking determines how we relate to everyone in our lives. It impacts how we view our marriage. It impacts how we view ourselves. It even impacts our relationship with God. In order to improve all of those relationships, we have to take our fallen thinking and conform it to biblical thinking. In other words, we have to change our minds. There are three reasons this can be a huge challenge. 1⃣ First, the Word of God…

πŸ’πŸ‘‘ Help Meet

β€œAnd the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him…. And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof; And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. And Adam said,…

πŸ’ Breaking The Curse of Control

A marriage in which one spouse controls the other spouse is not a healthy marriage. It doesn’t matter if the dominant spouse is a man or a woman. Control is a gender-neutral issue. But in my marriage, I was the controlling spouse. Karen and I nearly divorced because I was such a dominating husband. That sin goes all the way back to the Garden of Eden. God designed marriage to be a paradise as long as it…

πŸ’ Celebrate Your Differences

When Karen and I started dating, I thought we were just going out and having fun. It was superficial at first. But God was doing something at a much deeper level than I understood. I believe God wires us to choose a spouse according to His will. This happens under the surface and we don’t always recognize it. It’s part of His plan, but not understanding this causes a lot of the pain people experience in marriage.…