Are you and your spouse best friends? The best marriages are built on a foundation of friendship. In fact, friendship should be present in a relationship before anything romantic happens.
1️⃣ The first foundation of friendship in marriage is faithfulness. You can’t just be your spouse’s friend when you want to be or when it’s convenient. Proverbs 17:17 says, “A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.” In other words, friendship is mostly developed or lost during hard times.
Times of adversity are when your friendship increases the most. That’s when we have to pay the most attention. If we make a mistake, those are the times when we have to be careful to go back and make it right.
2️⃣ The second foundation of friendship is believing in each other. You’ll never be friends with someone who doesn’t believe in you. That’s why God uses our friendship with our spouse to bring each other to our full potential.
Every husband partners with God to bring his wife to her full potential. Every wife is God’s partner to help bring her husband to his potential. Your role as spouses is to believe in each other and help each other become what God has created you to be.
3️⃣ The third foundation of friendship is embracing each other’s differences. If you have a friend who constantly criticizes you and rejects your differences, you won’t remain friends for long. A lot of people want to marry someone who is just like them, but it’s more important for a husband and wife to be compatible.
Instead of training your spouse to become more like you, celebrate the ways that you’re different. “I’m so glad we’re together,” you might say. “God put us together because we fit perfectly. All of my weaknesses, you fill them in.”
Karen and I are best friends today, but there was a period in our marriage where we weren’t friends at all and we almost divorced. After God began to heal us, we started MarriageToday to make sure others had the tools to build healthy marriages according to God’s plan.
In the process, we’ve seen so many marriages find hope and healing, like that of Jo Anna, who attended one of our XO conferences with her husband:
We were on the verge of divorce but God is so amazing. He restored our marriage and gave me my sanity back. I suffered with so many insecurities and hurts but with these skills that we learned from Pastor Jimmy, we are on a different path with our Lord and Savior. I fell in love with God and my husband on a much deeper level.
Marriage is under attack in our country, and I truly believe that so many of the challenges facing our society like crime, poverty, violence and education can be addressed by strengthening families. And a strong family begins with a healthy marriage.
That’s why we have set a year-end goal of raising $400,000. This amount will help us increase our ministry opportunities and expand our reach like never before.
Will you help us meet this goal with a gift to MarriageToday? Join us in taking a stand for marriage and be a part of our growth as we look forward to 2018.
Jimmy Evans // Marriage Today