Here’s a question I want you to think about: Did God put the two of you together?
If you’re like most couples, you probably think to yourself, “Of course!”
In that case, here’s a follow-up question: WHY did God put you together?
That’s harder to answer, right? I’ve asked that last question from the stage and in counseling and received a lot of blank stares. Helping couples figure out the why of their marriage is something I am extremely passionate about.
In marriage, success never happens on accident. It takes work. It takes effort. It also takes unity. You’ll only be successful if both of you are committed to it and putting in the practice. Amos 3:3 asks, “Do two walk together unless they have agreed to do so?” If you’re not traveling in the same direction, marriage can be a difficult journey.
How do you find God’s purpose for your marriage? You can start by asking another question: Why are we here in the first place?
The answer is that God put you here, and He created you for a purpose. He wants you to have a relationship with Him and He wants you to have a relationship with each other. Jesus’ two greatest commandments reflect this.
1. Love the Lord your God with all your heart, soul, mind and strength.
2. Love your neighbor as yourself. (See Matthew 22:36-40.)
God brings us together because relationships are why we exist. They are what help us become the people He created us to be.
But the devil knows this, so he works to divide us. He creates walls and uses temptations to separate us from each other. He also puts distractions in our path. These are substitutions for what we get out of marriage. They’re things we think will bring us happiness, like money, or a new job, or even a new spouse. He spreads dissatisfaction through these distractions.
God’s plan is to bring us together and keep us together. He wants us to pursue Him and pursue our spouse. Satan wants to tear us away from God and apart from each other. Those methods have worked for a long, long time.
On earth, your primary human relationship is with your spouse, and building that relationship is why God put you together. That’s His plan for your life. Your marriage is your purpose. Your purpose is your marriage. Your family, your spouse, your faith…these are the things that matter.
So prioritize your spouse as you pursue God. Refuse to be distracted by substitutions. Not only will you find success, but you’ll be protected from the devil’s attempts to separate you. Your marriage will never be the same.
Jimmy Evans // Marriage Today