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Ex-Lesbian Gives Testimony of Turning to Jesus From a ‘Super Wild’ Lifestyle With Women [Watch]

Ex-Lesbian Gives Testimony of Turning to Jesus From a ‘Super Wild’ Lifestyle With Women [Watch]

A Christian speaker and blogger has shared her story of leaving behind a “super wild” lifestyle with other women and turning to Jesus in a video on Facebook that’s sparking a debate online. “Who hath saved us, and called us with an holy calling, not according to our works, but according to his own purpose and grace, which was given us in Christ Jesus before the world began” (2 Timothy 1:9). Emily Thomes, now a wife and…

๐Ÿ’ 9 Ways to Feed the Passion in Your Marriage

๐Ÿ’ 9 Ways to Feed the Passion in Your Marriage

We need to make a practice of tending fully to the love of our life for a few moments a day, every day. Italians and people of many other Mediterranean countries have an almost blatant disregard for the clock. They rarely seem in a hurry and are typically open and welcoming to drop-in visitors. Contrast that to Americans with precious little margin in their fast-paced lives, who feel not joy but irritation at a friend dropping by…

๐Ÿ’ The Secret of Lifelong Love

๐Ÿ’ The Secret of Lifelong Love

Everyone wants a love that lasts a lifetime. A recent study found that 93 percent of Americans say they dream of a lasting, stable marriage relationship. But instead of lifelong love, theyโ€™re finding disappointment and heartache. People havenโ€™t lost the dream for marriage. Theyโ€™ve just lost the hope. Thatโ€™s because they have the wrong mentality. They see marriage as a sprint. But in reality, itโ€™s a marathon. Let me explain. Fifty years and about 70 pounds ago,…

๐Ÿท Alcohol: The Great Deceiver

๐Ÿท Alcohol: The Great Deceiver

โ€œWoe unto him that giveth his neighbor drink, that puttest thy bottle to him, and makest him drunken.โ€ โ€”Habakkuk 2:15 There are many passages in the Word of God, such as the above reference, that are timeless principles. While the alcohol industry goes to great lengths to get people to believe that drinking is a harmless way to have a good time, the facts are otherwise. It is very careful never to advertise the alcoholic who is…

What Your Husband Really Wants for Christmas

What Your Husband Really Wants for Christmas

Forget the ties and BBQ apron, your man would much rather see these gifts wrapped up on Christmas Day. I love Christmas shopping. Iโ€™ll spend weeks before the big day searching for the right gift that conveys just what that particular person means to me or our family. Nothing elaborate or overly expensive but something that is practical and comes from the heart. When it comes to my husband, on the other hand, Iโ€™m usually stuck. The…

๐Ÿ’ Becoming Best Friends with Your Spouse

๐Ÿ’ Becoming Best Friends with Your Spouse

Are you and your spouse best friends? The best marriages are built on a foundation of friendship. In fact, friendship should be present in a relationship before anything romantic happens. 1๏ธโƒฃ The first foundation of friendship in marriage is faithfulness.ย You canโ€™t just be your spouseโ€™s friend when you want to be or when itโ€™s convenient. Proverbsย 17:17 says, โ€œA friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.โ€ In other words, friendship is mostly developed…

๐Ÿ’ How to Maximize the Fun Factor in Your Remarriage

๐Ÿ’ How to Maximize the Fun Factor in Your Remarriage

A regular dose of fun, relaxing time together is a key part of a dynamic, fulfilling relationship. Ty and Andrea met on the tennis court. Every Saturday for months, they secretly watched each other practice and play in an intramural country club league. Finally, Ty asked Andrea to play a match and the rest was history. Eventually they discovered a shared passion for sports, and that became a central hub of their time together. Once they married,…

๐Ÿ’ When You and Your Spouse Don’t Agree

๐Ÿ’ When You and Your Spouse Don’t Agree

Did you have deep conversations when you and your spouse were dating? One reason Karen and I struggled so much early in our marriage was because we avoided those conversations. We dated to impress each other, not to prepare for marriage. We got married and didnโ€™t even know if we agreed on important things! Proactive communication is critical to a healthy marriage. โ€œProactiveโ€ means communicating ahead of time, before something becomes an issue. Instead of reacting to…

๐Ÿ’ When Your Spouse Complains

๐Ÿ’ When Your Spouse Complains

No marriage is immune to feelings of anger. Karen and I get angry with each other, but we have learned how to process that anger. Weโ€™ve learned to talk through things, to let it out, rather than letting our anger fester. Unresolved anger doesnโ€™t just cause relationship problems. It also causes health problems. A University of Michigan study found that people in bad marriages have a 35 percent higher incidence of disease and live an average of…

๐Ÿ’ How to Deal with Anger on a Daily Basis

๐Ÿ’ How to Deal with Anger on a Daily Basis

Great marriages will still have times of anger. Thatโ€™s just the way it is. Karen and I have come a long way since the early days of our marriage, when we came right to the brink of divorce. The difference between then and now is that we know how to deal with our anger. Anger is inevitable and anger is normal. Itโ€™s a human response. God gets angry. Jesus got angry and cleansed the temple. The fact…

๐Ÿ’ The Battle For Control And Dominance

๐Ÿ’ The Battle For Control And Dominance

In 1998, the famed psychology professor John Gottman released a fascinating study. For six years, he interviewed 130 newly married couples in a project about listening in relationships. He compared them to another group he had been monitoring for 13 years. The purpose of the study was to gauge the effectiveness of a certain kind of communication, but in the process of researching so many couples he came to an unrelated conclusion: The common element among the…

๐Ÿ’ How Do You Fight Selfishness in Marriage?

๐Ÿ’ How Do You Fight Selfishness in Marriage?

I was doing some homework at breakfast, planning to meet a close friend and mentor the next morning. And I needed to be ready. I love connecting with him, but every time I do, he asks me the same question: “What has God been teaching you lately?” I don’t always have an answer, and I wanted to prepare a theologically deep and appropriately pithy response. And then, just as my brain was getting into a groove, Erin…

๐Ÿ’ Why Couples Really Fight

๐Ÿ’ Why Couples Really Fight

Fear is one of the most destructive forces in an individualโ€™s life, and one of the most destructive forces in marriage. Fear causes you to do the things that will make your fears come true. Thatโ€™s why it never motivates right behavior. When Karen and I first got married, we let fear guide us. I tried to hide my fear with macho behavior because I was afraid of failure. I didnโ€™t want to be perceived as weak.…

How Would Jesus Date?

How Would Jesus Date?

While Jesus never dated, He did have friends. And His friendships reveal the nature of His relationships in such a way that we can imagine how He would date. Brain research suggests that romantic attachment โ€” infatuation โ€” is more powerful than the sex drive. Neurologically speaking, itโ€™s easier to say no to physical sexual passion than it is to regulate the rush of emotional infatuation. Think about that. Consider all the sermons youโ€™ve heard as a…

๐Ÿ’ How to Share Your Dreams and Desires

๐Ÿ’ How to Share Your Dreams and Desires

The greatest depth of intimacy you and your spouse experience in marriage isnโ€™t physical intimacy. Itโ€™s not even emotional intimacy. The most profound connection in marriage is spiritual. Spiritual intimacy is a sense of unity and mutual commitment to Godโ€™s purpose for your lives and marriage. Itโ€™s a special respect for the deepest dreams each of you cry out for. As with emotional intimacy, cultivating spiritual intimacy requires value, energy, sacrifice, and trust. โ€œI value Godโ€™s purpose…

๐Ÿ’ Is God’s Presence in Your Marriage?

๐Ÿ’ Is God’s Presence in Your Marriage?

It was such a small point โ€” almost a throwaway line, but it hit with such force in the middle of my sermon that a woman in the church made plaques using it, and those plaques now grace many homes in the Houston area: God is in the room. Most believers know that God is in every room we walk into. But we forget, and then we act as if He’s not. God is relegated to a…

How A Close Connection with God Brings Hope to Your Relationships

How A Close Connection with God Brings Hope to Your Relationships

My husband declared he wanted a vista. โ€œA vista!โ€ I cried, โ€œyou said you wanted a view!โ€ His declaration was my undoing. In one day, Tom and I had sold the farm where weโ€™d lived for 23 years. What resulted was a flurry of activity to thin out the possessions weโ€™d collected andย downsize. We both agreed on our top priority for the new home: We wanted a view. After a month of looking, I found the sweetest…

๐Ÿ’ How to Keep Your Marriage Flying High

๐Ÿ’ How to Keep Your Marriage Flying High

Letโ€™s say your family is an airplane. You and your spouse are the pilots. Your children are riding as passengers. Maybe youโ€™ve been flying this plane for so many years youโ€™re just operating on autopilot. Itโ€™s easy. Itโ€™s efficient. But flying on autopilot can put you out of practice if something goes wrong. And when something challenging occurs, if you canโ€™t keep the plane in the air, you donโ€™t just hurt yourself and your spouse. You hurt…

๐Ÿ’ How To Fall In Love All Over Again

๐Ÿ’ How To Fall In Love All Over Again

Soul mates are not born. Theyโ€™re made. Thatโ€™s a fact that may discourage people who think marriage should be easy, but itโ€™s the truth. God created marriage to succeed. But that success requires us to put energy into it. In other words, you have to work at marriage. As an example, letโ€™s talk about emotions. One misconception about marriage is that the emotions will always be there. Youโ€™ll always feel โ€œin love.โ€ The truth is that youโ€™ll…

๐Ÿ’ Striking Your Spiritual And Emotional Match

๐Ÿ’ Striking Your Spiritual And Emotional Match

When people ask Karen and me to explain to them the secret of our marriage, I usually have a one-word answer:ย God. God is the secret of our marriage. He is the secret of why we are together. The greatest intimacy that we experience is the spiritual part of our relationship. Thatโ€™s why we work hard to create spiritual intimacy in our marriage. But spiritual intimacy requires emotional intimacy. And emotional intimacy means both spouses need to be…