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πŸ’ A Marriage Without Baggage

πŸ’ A Marriage Without Baggage

All of us have elements of our past that we bring into marriage. We get married with baggage. Karen and I both brought huge amounts of baggage into our relationship, and it nearly ruined our marriage. We had problems from the beginning. One of the biggest types of baggage you can bring into a marriage are iniquities. In describing these, Exodus says the Lord punishes children for the iniquities of their parents β€œto the third and the…

πŸ’ Breaking the Curse of Control

πŸ’ Breaking the Curse of Control

Early in our marriage, Karen and I almost divorced because I was a controlling husband. In an emotionally healthy relationship, you don’t control each other. Why is a controlling spouse so damaging to a marriage? Remember the story of Adam and Eve in the Garden of Eden. When Eve sinned, God pronounced a curse over her: β€œTo the woman he said, β€˜I will greatly increase your labor pains…You will want to control your husband, but he will…

πŸ’­ I’m Not a Nag…Am I?

πŸ’­ I’m Not a Nag…Am I?

Four suggestions on how to be nag free and make life easier for you and your family. I’ll never forget the first time my husband, David, accused me of being aΒ nag. To hear that word come out of his mouth was upsetting, even disturbing. In my newlywed mind, I thought I would never end up likeΒ thatΒ … and so soon after our wedding, too! I don’t want to nag; I really don’tβ€”sometimes I even get on my own…

πŸ’ The Secrets of Lifelong Passion and Intimacy

πŸ’ The Secrets of Lifelong Passion and Intimacy

In order to build a lifelong foundation for passion and sexual intimacy in marriage, a couple must make sure four core beliefs are in place. These core beliefs are simple to remember because they spell out an acronym:Β TRUE. T=The Bible is true and authoritative in my life and marriage.Β The fact that the Bible is still under attack in America shows that it is still relevant to our lives today. Why? Because attacking God’s Word is the devil’s…

⚠️ How to Avoid Dangerous Attractions

⚠️ How to Avoid Dangerous Attractions

At a company convention, Christine ran into an old college professor. She had admired his teaching skills and loved being his assistant in the undergraduate chemistry course. After a group luncheon, they promised to stay in touch. Initial emails were infrequent and often focused on activities and people they both knew. But it didn’t take long before they began to share about their individual lives and families. From there, the conversations turned very personal, but Christine told…

πŸ’ The Power of Vision for Your Marriage

πŸ’ The Power of Vision for Your Marriage

Last week, we talked about finding the purpose for your marriage. God’s overall purpose for your marriage is relationship. You were created to pursue Him and enjoy a relationship with each other. Through marriage, He helps form us into the people He created us to be. That’s the big picture. But God is also interested in the details of our lives, and that means He also has a more specific purpose for your marriage. How do you…

πŸ’ Finding the Purpose for Your Marriage

πŸ’ Finding the Purpose for Your Marriage

Here’s a question I want you to think about:Β Did God put the two of you together? If you’re like most couples, you probably think to yourself, β€œOf course!” In that case, here’s a follow-up question:Β WHY did God put you together? That’s harder to answer, right? I’ve asked that last question from the stage and in counseling and received a lot of blank stares. Helping couples figure out theΒ whyΒ of their marriage is something I am extremely passionate about.…

β›ˆοΈ 🌈 Carrie Underwood’s Husband Reads Noah’s Ark to Their Son [Video of the Day]

β›ˆοΈ 🌈 Carrie Underwood’s Husband Reads Noah’s Ark to Their Son [Video of the Day]

The sweet moments keep coming from country music star Carrie Underwood and her family. The singer posted a video to Instagram over the weekend of her husband, Mike Fisher, reading the biblical story of “Noah’s Ark” to their three-year-old son Isaiah. Underwood writes, “Story time with Daddy…Learning about Noah… and my heart melts.” The post has been viewed more than one million times since it was shared Sunday. Story time with Daddy…Learning about Noah…and my heart melts……

πŸ™ŒπŸ½ Ex-Lesbian Gives Testimony of Turning to Jesus From a ‘Super Wild’ Lifestyle With Women [Watch]

πŸ™ŒπŸ½ Ex-Lesbian Gives Testimony of Turning to Jesus From a ‘Super Wild’ Lifestyle With Women [Watch]

A Christian speaker and blogger has shared her story of leaving behind a “super wild” lifestyle with other women and turning to Jesus in a video on Facebook that’s sparking a debate online. “Who hath saved us, and called us with an holy calling, not according to our works, but according to his own purpose and grace, which was given us in Christ Jesus before the world began” (2 Timothy 1:9). Emily Thomes, now a wife and…

πŸ’ 9 Ways to Feed the Passion in Your Marriage

πŸ’ 9 Ways to Feed the Passion in Your Marriage

We need to make a practice of tending fully to the love of our life for a few moments a day, every day. Italians and people of many other Mediterranean countries have an almost blatant disregard for the clock. They rarely seem in a hurry and are typically open and welcoming to drop-in visitors. Contrast that to Americans with precious little margin in their fast-paced lives, who feel not joy but irritation at a friend dropping by…

πŸ’ The Secret of Lifelong Love

πŸ’ The Secret of Lifelong Love

Everyone wants a love that lasts a lifetime. A recent study found that 93 percent of Americans say they dream of a lasting, stable marriage relationship. But instead of lifelong love, they’re finding disappointment and heartache. People haven’t lost the dream for marriage. They’ve just lost the hope. That’s because they have the wrong mentality. They see marriage as a sprint. But in reality, it’s a marathon. Let me explain. Fifty years and about 70 pounds ago,…

🍷 Alcohol: The Great Deceiver

🍷 Alcohol: The Great Deceiver

β€œWoe unto him that giveth his neighbor drink, that puttest thy bottle to him, and makest him drunken.” β€”Habakkuk 2:15 There are many passages in the Word of God, such as the above reference, that are timeless principles. While the alcohol industry goes to great lengths to get people to believe that drinking is a harmless way to have a good time, the facts are otherwise. It is very careful never to advertise the alcoholic who is…

What Your Husband Really Wants for Christmas

What Your Husband Really Wants for Christmas

Forget the ties and BBQ apron, your man would much rather see these gifts wrapped up on Christmas Day. I love Christmas shopping. I’ll spend weeks before the big day searching for the right gift that conveys just what that particular person means to me or our family. Nothing elaborate or overly expensive but something that is practical and comes from the heart. When it comes to my husband, on the other hand, I’m usually stuck. The…

πŸ’ Becoming Best Friends with Your Spouse

πŸ’ Becoming Best Friends with Your Spouse

Are you and your spouse best friends? The best marriages are built on a foundation of friendship. In fact, friendship should be present in a relationship before anything romantic happens. 1️⃣ The first foundation of friendship in marriage is faithfulness.Β You can’t just be your spouse’s friend when you want to be or when it’s convenient. ProverbsΒ 17:17 says, β€œA friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.” In other words, friendship is mostly developed…

πŸ’ How to Maximize the Fun Factor in Your Remarriage

πŸ’ How to Maximize the Fun Factor in Your Remarriage

A regular dose of fun, relaxing time together is a key part of a dynamic, fulfilling relationship. Ty and Andrea met on the tennis court. Every Saturday for months, they secretly watched each other practice and play in an intramural country club league. Finally, Ty asked Andrea to play a match and the rest was history. Eventually they discovered a shared passion for sports, and that became a central hub of their time together. Once they married,…

πŸ’ When You and Your Spouse Don’t Agree

πŸ’ When You and Your Spouse Don’t Agree

Did you have deep conversations when you and your spouse were dating? One reason Karen and I struggled so much early in our marriage was because we avoided those conversations. We dated to impress each other, not to prepare for marriage. We got married and didn’t even know if we agreed on important things! Proactive communication is critical to a healthy marriage. β€œProactive” means communicating ahead of time, before something becomes an issue. Instead of reacting to…

πŸ’ When Your Spouse Complains

πŸ’ When Your Spouse Complains

No marriage is immune to feelings of anger. Karen and I get angry with each other, but we have learned how to process that anger. We’ve learned to talk through things, to let it out, rather than letting our anger fester. Unresolved anger doesn’t just cause relationship problems. It also causes health problems. A University of Michigan study found that people in bad marriages have a 35 percent higher incidence of disease and live an average of…

πŸ’ How to Deal with Anger on a Daily Basis

πŸ’ How to Deal with Anger on a Daily Basis

Great marriages will still have times of anger. That’s just the way it is. Karen and I have come a long way since the early days of our marriage, when we came right to the brink of divorce. The difference between then and now is that we know how to deal with our anger. Anger is inevitable and anger is normal. It’s a human response. God gets angry. Jesus got angry and cleansed the temple. The fact…

πŸ’ The Battle For Control And Dominance

πŸ’ The Battle For Control And Dominance

In 1998, the famed psychology professor John Gottman released a fascinating study. For six years, he interviewed 130 newly married couples in a project about listening in relationships. He compared them to another group he had been monitoring for 13 years. The purpose of the study was to gauge the effectiveness of a certain kind of communication, but in the process of researching so many couples he came to an unrelated conclusion: The common element among the…

πŸ’ How Do You Fight Selfishness in Marriage?

πŸ’ How Do You Fight Selfishness in Marriage?

I was doing some homework at breakfast, planning to meet a close friend and mentor the next morning. And I needed to be ready. I love connecting with him, but every time I do, he asks me the same question: “What has God been teaching you lately?” I don’t always have an answer, and I wanted to prepare a theologically deep and appropriately pithy response. And then, just as my brain was getting into a groove, Erin…